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Following is a list of books and digital resources we have found helpful for the journey.

Gold Links Are Books.  Purple Links Are Online Resources.


Door of Hope: Recognizing and Resolving the Pains of Your Past – Jan Frank

A great introduction to the process of healing from trauma, not just for sexual abuse, from a Christian perspective.

The Life Model: Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You, The Essentials of Christian Living by James G. Friesen, E. James Wilder, Anne M. Bierling, Rick Koepcke, Maribeth Poole

These authors spent 10 years studying all the models, Christian and non-Christian, to see what was working the best for traumatized persons. This is the model they developed as a result.

The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild M.S.W LCSW

This book gives a lot of excellent insight into body memories and recovering from them.

Children of Trauma: Rediscovering Your Discarded Self  by Jane Middelton-Moz

Gives information on child development and how trauma effects it; very helpful in understanding how different circumstances can be traumatizing.

Recovery from Distorted Images of God by Dale Ryan, Juanita Ryan

(also see spiritual and sexual abuse below)


Boundaries – Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Boundaries for Kids – Cloud, Townsend
Boundaries in Marriage – Cloud, Townsend
Boundaries in Dating – Cloud, Townsend


Emotional Dependency – Lori Rentzel
Addicted to Love – Stephen Arterburn
Beyond Codependency – Melody Beattie
Codependent No More – Melody Beattie
Facing Codependency – Pia Melody
From Bondage to Bonding – Nancy Groom
Love is a Choice – Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirith, Paul Meier

Eating Disorders

Help, Hope and Healing for Eating Disorders – Gregory L Jantz
Inside the Thin Cage – Constance Rhodes
Love Hunger – Frank Minirth, Paul Meier, Robert Hemfelt, Sharon Sneed
90 Days: Encouragement for the Christian Overeater – Pat Nordstrom

Family Wounds

Always Daddy’s Girl – Norman Wright
Making Peace with your Father – David Stoop
Sons of the Father – Gordon Dalbey
The Mom Factor – Henry Cloud & John Townsend
The Return of the Prodigal Son – Henri Nouwen

Femininity / Women

Confidant Woman – Ingrid Trobisch
Healing Women’s Emotions – Paula Sandford


Choosing Forgiveness – John & Paula Sandford
Don’t Forgive too Soon – Matthew & Dennis Linn, Sheila Fabricant
Forgiveness – Charles Stanley

General / Inner Healing

Strength in Weakness – Andrew Comiskey
Abba’s Arms, Sandra Wilson
Agnes Sanford Teaching Libraries: CFO and C3
Alliance Defending Freedom
Changes that Heal – Cloud and Townsend
Daystar TV & Joni Lamb 
Focus on the Family
Healing for Damaged Emotions, David Seamands
Invitations from God, Adele Calhoun
Joyce Meyers Ministries
Liberty Counsel 
Moody Radio 
Practicing The Presence of God – Brother Lawrence
Presence of the Future – George Eldon Ladd
The Courage to be Chaste – Benedict J. Groeschel, C.F.R.
The Journey to Wholeness in Christ, Signa Bodishbaugh
The Healing Light – Agnes Sanford
Theology of the Body for Beginners, Christopher West
Tale of Three Kings – Gene Edwards
Real presence – Leanne Payne
Restoring the Christian Soul, Leanne Payne
Sheep in Wolves’ Clothing, Valerie McIntyre
The Healing Presence, Leanne Payne
Transformation of the Inner Man, John & Paula Sandford


A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis
Healing the Greatest Hurt – Matthew & Dennis Linn, Sheila Fabricant

Intimacy Issues

Hiding from Love – Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Risking Intimacy – Nancy Groom
Safe People – Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Sacred Romance – John Eldredge, Brent Curtis
The Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman

Listening Prayer

Listening for the Healing Word – Ann Armstrong
Listening Prayer – Dave & Linda Olson
In Search of Guidance – Dallas Willard
Listening Prayer – Leanne Payne


Beauty and the Breach – Andrew Comiskey
Boundaries in Marriage – Cloud and Townsend
Communication: Key to Your Marriage – Norman Wright
Good News About Sex and Marriage – Christoper West
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair – Proof Marriage, Willard F. Harley, Jr.
Heaven’s Song: Sexual Love As It Was Meant To Be – Christopher West
Love and War – John Eldridge
The Mystery of Marriage – Mike Mason
The Meaning of Marriage – Tim Keller
His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair – Proof Marriage, Willard F. Harley, Jr.
The Marriage Builder – Larry Crabb
Seasons of a Marriage – Norman Wright
Steering Clear – Dr. Earl Watson

Spouses married to Sex Addicts
Where Do I Go From Here? – Annette Comiskey
An Affair of the Mind, Laurie Hall
From Pieces to Peace – Helen Crossland, Judy Doyle
Lonely all the Time – Ralph Earle, Gregory Crow

Recovery from Extramarital Affairs
Every Heart Restored: A Wife’s Guide to Healing in the wake of a Husband’s Sexual Sin – Stephen Arterburn
Infidelity Recovery – Earl and Sandy Thilson
Repairing Your Marriage – After His Affair: A Woman’s Guide to Hope and Healing – Marcella Bakur Weiner, Armand DiMele
Torn Asunder – Dave Carder
Women, Sex and Addiction – Davis Kasl


Crises in Masculinity – Leanne Payne
Growth into Manhood – Alan Medinger
Healing The Masculine Soul – Gordon Dalbey
Shoulder to Shoulder, Rodney Cooper
Silence of Adam – Larry Crabb
Wild at Heart – John Eldredge


Hope When You are Hurting – Larry Crabb
The Problem of Pain – C.S. Lewis


Facing Shame: Families in Recovery – Merle A. Fossum, Marilyn J. Mason

An excellent resource to help understand shame and family dynamics

Healing the Shame that Binds Us – John Bradshaw
Released from Shame – Sandra Wilson

Spiritual Abuse

Healing Spiritual Abuse – Ken Blue
Recovering from Churches that Abuse – Ronald Enroth
Recovery From Cults, Michael D. Langone
The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse – David Johnson, Jeff VanVonderen
Tired of Trying to Measure Up, Jeff Van Vonderen
When God Becomes a Drug – Father Leo Booth
Toxic Faith – Stephen Arterburn, Jack Felton

Spiritual Warfare Tools

Behind Enemy Lines – Charles H. Kraft, Tom White, Ed Murphy
Victory over Darkness – Neil Anderson

We cannot vouch for the content beyond this website. These are simply our recommendations. May they help you on your journey.